How to be a Good Mom Even When You're Struggling!

 Gosh, I’ve never struggled so much with something in my entire life. Motherhood….it has me on the struggle bus CONSTANTLY! On this episode of the Roaring Mama Podcast, I shared some of my motherhood journey with you…the struggles, the tears, the trials, the triumphs. But because I know some rather read than listen (because let's face it.... sometimes we need to give our ears a break) I have created a blog post that gives you the jest of what's talked about in the podcast. 

Not only am I a wife and homemaker...I'm a homeschooling mother of 3 beautiful blessings that sometimes have me going crazy. Like I previously mentioned, I'm constantly on the struggle bus of motherhood. 

Actually, I'm not the mom I thought I'd be. I wanted to be a kind, patient, gentle mother who took the time to listen to every detail of my children's feelings. I never wanted to be the mother who yelled at her children when they did wrong, but calmly redirected them to more appropriate and productive behaviors. 

I knew that motherhood would be challenging…I wasn’t naive to the fact that children are challenging. I’ve dealt with children a lot growing up and I knew how to care for them. I knew how to love them. I knew I would have to be patient with them...but what I didn't know was that Motherhood was nonstop and harder than anything I could ever imagine. 

BUT HERE COMES THE TRUTH….

I now realize the motherhood I dreamt of was an unobtainable fairytale. The reality of being a mom is that you are taken for granted a lot, misunderstood, blamed, criticized, guilt tripped (mostly self-doing), depleted emotionally, physically, and mentally, and still required to function even when you feel you're about to break. It's hard. 

I don’t always enjoy motherhood. I don’t always enjoy being a mom. Don’t get me wrong….I LOVE being a mom and I LOVE my children…but not every moment is enjoyable.

Motherhood is HARD. Harder than anything I’ve ever done before.

Being responsible for the lives of others is a heavy responsibility.

It's so true...The mama that I am today is NOT the mama that I imagined I'd be...but HALLELUJAH I'm not the mama I used to be. 

But it’s the calling Jesus has for my life, so I am actively trying to do it with humility, excitement, and joy for all the days of my life.

Cause once you become a mom…motherhood doesn’t stop…changes but doesn’t stop! Every season is different…and this season I am in right now has me on the struggle bus.

OK! I used to consider myself a yeller. But when I got into a relationship with my then boyfriend, now husband, he explained that he doesn’t want to yell at each other like we are children.